What A Good Mentor Looks Like: Goal: To show what a mentor who can really make a difference in the lives of youth in Memphis looks/acts like.
Wears casual clothes
Why: Young people are more likely to believe that you know about a different lifestyle, and will be more willing to listen. If you dress like a thug, but are trying to say "live different" then you are lying.
Why: If you yell, you are being disrespectful. No one listens when they are being disrespected.
Why: When you preach, you don’t sound like you actually care about what the mentee thinks. You aren’t listening, and so you aren’t relatable.
Know what the consequences are really like
Why: People trust you when you tell them about things you have experienced. Being able to tell examples of what you have seen or know helps speak truth and knowledge.
Show up consistently (3-4 times a week)
Why: There a lot of people telling young people to do the wrong things on a daily basis. You have to meet with them and talk with them enough times to counter that. Also, meeting more times shows you care.
Talk about things like school, relationships, family and more
Why: Connecting and talking about the things that are important in the young person’s life is necessary if you want to know who they are and the things they care about. Also, there are tons of opportunities to show that you care about them as a person if you are meeting their needs.
Travel around with the mentee
Why: Seeing different places, and experiencing new things helps you connect. It's also feels great to be exposed to new places that are positive.
Challenge the mentee to think deeply
Why: When a mentee can see things differently, they feel like they are growing and becoming more wise.
Let them know and feel needed
Why: When you know you are needed and important, you make better choices. When positive mentors and role models show the mentee that they are important, the mentee can choose to make choices that lead them to a more positive future.